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Overcoming Losing A Child with Selima Maxine

• Anne Vryonides • Season 1 • Episode 2

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Episode 002: Overcoming Losing a Child with Selima Maxine

Losing a child is every parent’s worst nightmare—and one of the most profound heartbreaks a human being can endure. In this powerful episode of Overcoming Anything, I talk with Selima Maxine, an international attorney, Fulbright Scholar, grief coach, and spiritual teacher who faced the unimaginable: the loss of her son.

Selima shares her raw, honest story of living in constant uncertainty, navigating the helplessness of watching her child suffer, and finding a way forward after devastating loss. Through her journey, she discovered tools for emotional healing, mindfulness, and resilience that helped her transform grief into purpose. 

Today, she guides others in turning pain into peace and connecting with their own strength and higher purpose. Her mission is to share the tools and insights that turned her suffering into peace, helping others unlock their full potential by connecting with their life purpose and healing from within.

✨ Key Takeaways from this Episode:

·       How to begin healing when faced with unimaginable grief

·       The importance of daily practices like mindfulness, yoga, and self-care in  recovery

·       Why resilience is not about control, but about choosing your response

·       How love and connection continue beyond physical loss

Selima’s story is one of courage, spiritual awakening, and hope. Whether you are grieving yourself or supporting someone you love, this episode will remind you that healing is possible, love never dies, and even the darkest night will end with the rising sun.

Follow Selima:

Website: selimamaxine.com

Instagram: selima_maxine/

 

Overcoming Anything is Hosted by Anne Vryonides



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Anne Vryonides:

Welcome to Overcoming Anything, the podcast where we dive deep into stories of resilience, transformation, and growth. I'm your host, Anne and today we have an incredible guest who has overcome the life-changing loss of a child. I think this has to be one of the hardest. Things for anybody to actually have to deal with in this lifetime. And, joining me today is Selima Crum. She's an accomplished international attorney and Fulbright Scholar who turned into a writer, a spiritual life teacher. Grief coach and psychic medium following the loss of her son. Her mission is to share the tools that she's learned and insights and helping others turn their suffering into peace, helping others unlock their full potential by connecting them with their life purpose and healing from within. So before we dive in, I love to ask, Selima, what's one quote or mantra that keeps you going in tough times?

Selima Maxine Crum:

Hi. Thank you so much for, inviting me. So I do have one affirmation that I really love. It's from Louise Hay. I use it often to calm myself especially during rough times."All is well. Everything is working out for my highest good. Out of this situation, only good will come. I am saf e, there's also a quote actually that I really like from, a French writer. It says even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.

Anne Vryonides:

Oh, that's so beautiful. And a great reminder for people going through dark times that yes, the sun will shine again. It may take a while, but the sun always comes back out. Let's go ahead and start at the beginning. What is the most difficult thing that you've ever had to overcome in your life? I think

Selima Maxine Crum:

the most difficult thing I've ever, had to overcome by far was the birth of, my first son, my first born son. So I was completely blindsided. The doctors kept telling me everything was going perfectly with the pregnancy and that everything was healthy. No one saw any issues. So even though I had this gut feeling that something wasn't right, I mentioned it to my O-B-G-Y-N, but they brushed it off as just. Baby brain. So when my son was born via C-section, the doctors discovered that, there was no amniotic fluid at all. Left. But they could see that, so they had to yank him out and the pain was so intense. So they had to increase my pain medication in the process. They broke his arm and what, followed after. That was a nightmare that I never saw coming really so he had difficulty drinking milk and he would choke every time and. That was life threatening. Obviously the doctors couldn't explain what was causing it. So it was total uncertainty. And this led to years of, hospital stays after that, multiple therapies and, so much love and hope for recovery. all while living in extreme uncertainty. So that was certainly the most difficult thing that I had to overcome. And, eventually by age four he passed away from that.

Anne Vryonides:

So was it because he didn't get enough ambi amnionic fluid during his development?

Selima Maxine Crum:

So there was nothing actually that the doctors found. It was such a rare thing that happened that he was, a case study at the National Health Institute. He was driving all doctors crazy because no one was able to figure out what happened. We think it's because, of the lack of. amnioitic fluid, which is absolutely essential for the development of an infant, and the, muscles and brain. Because it was lacking at the end of the pregnancy it wasn't detected. That was the only logical reason that we saw that would have caused what he had. And maybe also the Fact that they yanked him out,, from, my belly at the C-section that may have caused some neurological issues, but really there was no, visibility or no certainty. We had no idea what he had, but we did run all the genetic testing and he was perfectly fine on that. So that's why it was a total confusion for all the doctors.

Anne Vryonides:

Oh my gosh.

Selima Maxine Crum:

It was a mystery, and until now, it's still a mystery. Even though I'm still communicating with him on the other side.

Anne Vryonides:

Oh, well I'm sure that brings you peace knowing that you can communicate with him on the other side.

Selima Maxine Crum:

Absolutely.

Anne Vryonides:

Why I am on this journey, and that's how I found myself here. So what made this experience, particularly challenging for you?

Selima Maxine Crum:

I think the most difficult thing was, to watch my little boy, someone so innocent and full of love go through so much pain from an illness that we couldn't understand and we couldn't do anything to help him. And I think as a mother, all I wanted was to, make it better to protect him, but I just felt so helpless. There was nothing I could do. His condition was so complicated that, no one could do anything for us and no one could do anything for him, but just help support him whenever he had some incident that we couldn't explain why it would happen, and it was so hectic and so unpredictable, it would happen while we were on a road trip or some, instances where we couldn't see, the incident happen. So we couldn't have any control over what was happening. And that's, I think, the most challenging thing. The lack of control, the uncertainty and the watching him definitely suffer so much was hard to swallow and yeah, hard to navigate through for sure.

Anne Vryonides:

So how did you deal with that as a mom? Because I know this as a first time mom and you see this going on. Like how would you calm yourself down? What did you say to yourself in those tough moments so you could go on and you could support him?

Selima Maxine Crum:

So it was a very slow process, let's say. I did have a depression right after he was born, mainly because of the postpartum, and the hormones. I didn't know how to cope because I didn't have any tools in my toolbox to know how to regulate my emotions, how to face something. So. Big. I never had any challenge like that in the past. I mean, I had regular challenges that everyone had, right? I had to move to another country that was maybe my biggest at the time. Or I had to find a job, like regular, normal people problems, but not facing life and death on a daily basis. I was lost in the beginning. I just felt like I was robbed from an experience that I really wanted to have, which was motherhood, normal motherhood. I realized that I really wanted to experience that badly. So I was ready to actually make a shift. And I think the shift happened whenever I start trying to have my second child. I was holding onto the hope that I would probably have another child again that would be healthy, and that would give me a little bit more confidence on the fact that I was not broken. And also it's just like the smiles of my child who was sick, right? Like he, he smiles, he cuddles, those little teeny tiny moments of joy that he was bringing us this unconditional love that aw, he was giving us in the moments where he was not in the hospital or whenever he was like healthy. Those little pockets that we got. That's what I hold on into, I think. And that's what gave me the strength to do the inner work, It took years really a very, very long time.. So I started with releasing the body trauma because that was a big trauma in the body, especially when you give birth and you have all those stuck emotion of guilt of shame. Why did my body like made my son broken? So it was really an inner, a lot of steps that I had to take starting with. My healing process of the body and then the mind meditation and all the tools to regulate my emotions over the years.

Anne Vryonides:

Wow. So how did you realize that you needed to release these emotions from your body? Did you have a mentor that came into your life or were you just seeking out, like where did you start on the journey to healing yourself?

Selima Maxine Crum:

I think, I started one day. When I was at the hospital and my son was, having another near death experience where the doctors asked us to tell him our goodbyes and he was on life support. That happened quite a lot during those five years where we're like, okay, that's it. It's the end of the journey with your son, so you have to just say goodbye. And then I think what happened that day is that I decided to just. Stop everything for a moment. Go home because the energy of the hospital was way too overwhelming to think. I had too much thoughts. All of them were negative, and at that point I felt like I couldn't function anymore, so I just took my car, went home, when I arrived at home. I saw a yoga mat lying down it was an old yoga mat and I didn't practice for years because I was pregnant. And then I had to deal with all my, sun hospitalizations I saw that yoga mat in a corner and I'm like, maybe I should take that yoga mat and use it. I remember the feeling was really amazing when I used to do yoga back in my early twenties. So I was just desperate for anything that could calm me down. And especially I felt pulled by that yoga mat, so I just took it. I love it. And I started doing some yoga on my own. And when I finally got into the corpse pose, Ana just laying there and with nothing to do. Nothing in my thoughts. It was totally empty. I felt so free, and that's when something shifted. I found this space that quiet in that moment that I didn't have for months and months, and I just realized that the constant worry and the overthinking, that's what kept me stuck. It was really the mindset shift that happened at that point. It was like a light bulb that went off. I couldn't control what was happening. I had zero control over that uncertainty, but I knew that I could control how I could respond to, and that was huge.

Anne Vryonides:

That's definitely my shift. Wow. What a powerful moment. It all began on the mat, heading into nothingness and releasing it and letting it all go. So who was there to support you during this time? And were there moments that you felt completely alone?

Selima Maxine Crum:

Luckily I had my husband who was in the exact same situation, so he was the only one who could really understand the struggle. So we were two in it, but we didn't have much support system, unfortunately because my parents lived abroad all that happened during the COVID area, so they couldn't, come as often as, we have hoped because of the travel bans. My sister also lived abroad. Our best friend couldn't really understand what we were going through and we didn't really. We didn't feel confident enough to open our circle or let other people in, so we kinda shrink actually even more our, our support system. We didn't want to include people. We felt so. Misunderstood that we just stayed the two of us only. So our support system, I would say from afar were my parents and my sister through messages, but not really face-to-face. And then the nurses, I think the nurses, the nannies, those were our support system. We were alone, like really alone often, and we pushed people away, to be honest, because we needed that time to try. We couldn't even process what was happening, so we couldn't explain what was happening to others. And people had too many questions and we didn't have any answer to any of their questions. I mean, the doctors didn't even give us any answers. So our support system was definitely not. Strong, let's say. So our support system was inner. It was an inner support system mainly that we had to create.

Anne Vryonides:

That makes sense that you probably pushed people away because you didn't wanna talk about it. So did this bring you and your husband closer together, or did you find that you were arguing more because you were both frustrated? Or how did you navigate that closest relationship?

Selima Maxine Crum:

So my husband was living it in his own way. He's, so my husband was, an army veteran. He was in a fight and flight mode ready to jump all the time. He was doing all the. Life-threatening events. He was handling those, because I was too terrified to do anything really. I would freeze anytime max would stop breathing or whenever we had to clear his airways on, the road and we had to call 9 1 1. I was good at calling 9 1 1 but then doing the urgent procedures that need to be done. I was not good at it, so he was doing it. So we were kind of in a team basically, where I had some things that I needed to do, which was all the logistics around the care of Max. And he would do all the death life procedures that were needed. So that's how we can approach it. We were really, we didn't have much time to think or to process or to talk about our feelings. We're just in, flight or fight period of our time where we couldn't just sit around and talk about it. We just had to act all the time. And especially I had my second son about a year and a half after Max was born. So I was also busy taking care of him. And I had a full-time job as well that was demanding. So I hired out a lot. I had a nanny and a nurse to help us out. So it was just a time of craziness where we couldn't really relate to each other because we had tasks and we needed to fulfill our roles at that time. So I think we are just talking about it like now after he passed, where we are processing all what happened and discussing how we dealt with it, how we should deal with it now, and how we should deal with it in the future, to heal, to feel better in a sense. But yeah, it did not get us closer. It get, get us closer in different ways where we became a stronger team, but, not closer in the moment because we're dealing with so much drama in our own way and trying to heal individually in our own way. So.

Anne Vryonides:

Well, that makes sense. You both kind of dropped into your roles and you were probably just so preoccupied with, taking care of Max and giving him what he needed that you both probably didn't really have time to process what was going on. So you said, now you guys are talking about it. Having gone through the grief together, did that help you? Did you find a way to support him and him to support you? Because sometimes in these situations it breaks relationships, but how did you guys stay strong and kind of move closer through the grieving process?

Selima Maxine Crum:

Yeah, that's a very good question. Absolutely. I totally agree. Most of the time it does break relationship. Fortunately for us it didn't. And mainly because, my husband, has been dealing with a lot of grief ever since he was a child. He did lose his parents early on, in his teens and, he was an orphaned early on, so he was living with his grandparents and then he enrolled in the army he went to different countries where he saw so much death and he had a lot of his friends who actually died as well. So he was better at dealing with grief. He had a lot of experience with it, if that makes sense. I never lost anyone in my life, fortunately.

Anne Vryonides:

Wow.

Selima Maxine Crum:

I lost my grandparents later on in my twenties, and it was a normal death if you want, right? That's the cycle of life, right? You grew old and then you die, and that's normal. It's not normal to lose someone in their prime or early in their life but I never dealt with death really, so I didn't even know. What it would feel like to grieve really until Max was born. So I was grieving actually his health first. So my grieving process was very slow, in a different way. My husband didn't deal with grief right away because he was in action mode where he believed. In the fact that he could heal Max, he was sure 100% that he could make him better fix him.'cause he was a fixer. Yeah. So he was focusing 100% on that. While I was not, I was actually grieving as soon as he was born, grieving the fact that he was not healthy. Grieving the fact that I didn't know how to care for my son. Grieving the fact that I may not have a son that would be ever. Be able to walk or talk or eat and then grieving the fact that I was telling him goodbye every other year because the doctors told us, okay, he's in life support. He's gonna go and then bomb. He, he would come back and whoa, what a miracle. So he was just so hectic that I was grieving the entire time and trying to heal myself. But I think the way I approached it was that I eventually realized how crucial it was to actually take care of myself. Especially when everything around me felt so uncertain. So it's easy to get lost in the chaos, but I knew that I couldn't keep going without nurturing my own wellbeing. So that's how I approached my own healing during his life. I start focusing more on my mental health, on my emotional health. Things like meditation, mindfulness, nature Walks became my daily routine, daily habits. I start eating well. I stopped drinking alcohol at all, even though I never really drank much, but it was, it felt better. So my self-care, my physical self-care was so important because that's how I could show up. That's how I could become the best caregiver for my child, and that's how I could cheer him up. And bring some joy and actually do enjoy and have fun in those pockets where he was healthy to give him like that regular, normal child experience, not focusing that much on the drama of his hospitalization, the drama of his sickness. I tried to make things as light as I could while my husband was really stressed and anxious into ensuring he stays alive. I was all the opposite where I was taking care of myself. I tried to be as healthy, as happy as possible, which was not easy. But daily habits were absolutely amazing because those daily habits allowed me to bring that happiness, bring that joy in the moments of, the drama that I was living. So I kinda almost changed that drama into something more beautiful, right? Like those moments, those little moments became. The biggest thing in my life. And that's what I was focusing on. Not the sickness, but the joy, the pockets. And that's how I kinda went. That's how I wouldn't say overcome because it's really hard to overcome it ever. Because you're still processing. But that's how I went with this journey. So we didn't go the same way my husband and I, but it was. It was complimentary. It was a teamwork, and now he's feeling so much better later because he doesn't need to deal with life and death on a daily basis. And we have still a very strong connection with our son on the other side. It's so obvious that consciousness never dies and that love never dies. So in a sense, we do have a happy ending even though we did lose him in the physical, if that makes sense.

Anne Vryonides:

Wow, that is so powerful. And I think that's something I really wanna reiterate for a listener who's going through grief, is to take the time out for self-care, create those daily habits to be in control of yourself when you can't control the things around you. And so, for someone going through grief you suggest to find a way to create your happiness so that you can bring the happiness to someone else.

Selima Maxine Crum:

Absolutely. So whether it's grief or anything else, just refocus your mind on the things that really bring you happiness and joy. Regardless of the circumstances of your life you will always have challenging moments, right? Life is ups and down. Never focus on the down. Always see the up, always see the light at the end of the tunnel, even if everything seems uncertain. You can't have control in life of everything really. Letting go of control is okay. Surrounding is okay. You know, just focus on the moment. Focus on the joy. Life is not eternal. We're just. Here for now. So just enjoy the now, however easier. Now, reframe the story. You don't need to make it worse than it is.

Anne Vryonides:

So true.

Selima Maxine Crum:

There's no need to make it even worse. So just try to hang on those. Beautiful moments. Try to take the good, try to reframe your story, see it differently from different lenses, lighter lenses, right? Lenses as if you're looking actually from the sky, right from above, where you're like, oh, that's not that important. What is important? What can I focus on that's actually gonna make things better? Right? Because that you have control over. That's the only thing that you have control over. So just do that, right? So the best way is also. That I found at least because we had to tell our son our goodbye so many times because he was in life support and all that. I did have conversations with him, right? So I did tell him, okay, I don't know how it is in the other side, but you better stay in touch with me. And I was six months pregnant whenever he passed with the, my third child. And I was telling him, Hey, I'm not sure about incarnation or reincarnation, but hey, do you have a body here that I'm. Kinda cooking if you wanna jump on it. I mean, you know, just like make it like lighter, you know, find the joke, find the fun, funny things in the situation. Even don't make it too serious, right? Like of course it's hard. Of course. It's terrible. But try to find something that is not, and just hang on on that. And if you know that the person is gonna pass, like for me, I knew towards the end that he would just try to find the closure, try to create the relationship, how the new relationship is gonna be. Because energy is energy, right? And we talked with my son about signs that he would send me, and he did send me all those signs. And even more establish a connection, establish a relationship that may actually transform in a different way. Keep your mind open. I would say, wow, don't, don't limit yourself. You are not limited. And even from a quantum, quantum physics data and information always to release right now, it does show that we do our energy and energy transforms. And we are really not limited by the physical body. So. Having that knowing and going within, that's gonna actually give you even more certainty of that. Because whenever you do your meditations, you do have insights and trust that little voice inside you that tells you what is right for you, what is your path, and how to handle things.

Anne Vryonides:

I love that. It sounds like your higher consciousness really served you during this experience. So what was the first sign that you told him that you wanted him to show you, to know that he was okay and he was on the other side. So if you feel comfortable sharing,

Selima Maxine Crum:

I feel very comfortable sharing because I do have a very beautiful relationship with him now, which is really odd for many people to hear that because no one really believes in the afterlife. But I've seen so many proof of his existence and I've read for so many people. Practice reading with you as well, right?

Anne Vryonides:

Yeah.

Selima Maxine Crum:

And I've read so many people that I am convinced, I'm a believer and I have never been, I was so much of a skeptic before. I did ask him to have to see deer in my backyard. And I live in a city and see deer in my backyard,

Anne Vryonides:

my goodness.

Selima Maxine Crum:

I know. It's absolutely crazy Whenever I saw them and I look at my husband, I'm like. Is that for real what I'm seeing? We live in Washington DC so you can see deers in your backyard, right?

Anne Vryonides:

Validation right there.

Selima Maxine Crum:

But this is just one example, right? Like he transformed our house literally in a paranormal site. Okay? So right after he passed the TV would be unplugged and then it would just start playing his favorite cartoon. So the lights started flick everywhere. At first, I would see people that has his name and then I would hear Max. So this is, you would tell me it's not maybe crazy, right? But then I would see some kids that look just exactly like him. So every time I was denying things, and then I would see his name in a big. Billboard or something, right? And then, you have the light flickering everywhere I go, I have light flickering. That's also, absolutely amazing. But I do think like the toys moving around the house by themself, the books opening and start playing by themself. Those were the strangers thing.'cause I did ask him to show his presence at home. I told him, okay, just however you wanna. Do it. I just need to feel that you're still here. I need to hear that you're still here. So it wasn't like specific signs that I gave him and he did deliver because as soon as we came home, toys were moving around. Like it was really craziness, like paranormal type of things. So it was absolutely beautiful and my mind took a long time to really absorb the information, process it, and then realize that. I was not crazy. So that's why I had to go through, readings with a lot of, well-known psychic mediums to figure out that this thing is real and it's not. My mind. I was playing jokes on me. And then when I started doing the readings and when I started bringing so many evidence that were so, accurate for the sitters, for the people that I was bringing the evidence, I think like after maybe. 300 readings or something. Then I said, I'm like, okay, I'm gonna trust that. But it did take me a lot of time to trust it because we're not conditioned to trust it. Society just tell us that we can actually connect our consciousness to beyond what we see and that we can see more than what we see with our physical eyes. And that is not taught, if only that is taught. But society's not. It is starting to open, but it's still not there at all. And you know, having that revelation kinda change your mindset and change the way of looking at people. And you do realize that at the end we are all connected,

Anne Vryonides:

Was it scary at first when things started moving? Because you said you really hadn't experienced anyone passing before in your life. So were you afraid at first or were you just comforted knowing that you asked him to send you the sign?

Selima Maxine Crum:

To be honest, it was slightly frightening. But there was an inner knowing that it was him and that was so comforting. I could feel his energy, I could feel his presence. I can't explain exactly how, but it was just so obvious for me that was him. So it was slightly frightening because I couldn't see him with my physical eyes, but I could feel him so much and I could see things happening in front of me that I couldn't explain because of, my super skeptic mindset. As an attorney, I am not used to open my mind to things other than evidence. a mix of, exciting because I knew that he was still there. that actually confirmed my inner knowing. And at the same time, it was, a bit frightening because it against all my beliefs. So I had to work on all my belief system and kinda change that and rewire all what I learned. That was very challenging and it took me, a whole year of, hard work to rewire that belief and take it off. That was not true. What I've been taught was not true and accept the fact that there is actually something more, and that has been validated. And I needed data, I needed validation, I needed evidence, and, I'm getting that now. So, so that's why I feel comfortable with it now. But at first it was a rough journey, to navigate through the old belief and take them away, especially when you live all your life with those beliefs, right?

Anne Vryonides:

Yeah, I can imagine.

Selima Maxine Crum:

Yeah.

Anne Vryonides:

So if someone listening is going through something similar right now, what advice would you have for them?

Selima Maxine Crum:

There's a light at the end of the tunnel. Reframe your story. Don't let yourself overwhelmed under the circumstances and the seemingly incontrollable, events of your life because you do have one control. Over your thoughts, over your wellbeing, over the way you want to see or you can see things. So just to reframe your story, try to enjoy the little moments and stick to a daily practice. That daily practice is mandatory for your personal wellbeing to care for yourself, and that's what's gonna allow you to overcome every situation, no matter how difficult it is, caring for yourself. But it requires consistence and resilience. So don't give up on yourself because. You are the key to overcoming any circumstances of your life. Just believe it. Trust it, and trust yourself. You can do it.

Anne Vryonides:

Absolutely. You're more powerful than you think you are. Don't give up on yourself. And lastly, looking back, what is the one thing that you learned about yourself having gone through this entire experience of losing a child?

Selima Maxine Crum:

I think the main important thing is that sometimes finding small pockets of peace, that's the most important thing living in the moment. I didn't live in the moment at all. I was always thinking about the next thing that I needed to do anxious about the future, thinking about the past, and about what I did in the past that I could change I think I learned that resilience isn't about being strong all the time. It's about finding the strength to keep going even when everything feels impossible. And you can do that by being mindful of the thoughts that you think. Try to choose positive thoughts. Try to put seeds of joy, seeds of the life that you want to live rather than the life that you are living. Change your outlook and your mindset is gonna completely change. Your situation is gonna change, and you're gonna come out in the other side so much stronger. So leaving the moment, keep going. Never forget that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and that you can get there. But then, you know, whenever you get there, you're gonna be transformed. You're not gonna be the same person at all. You're gonna be a person that is much more enlightened in a certain way. I mean, I don't know how you want to define the word enlightened, but definitely awakened a little bit more awakened. Right. Higher energy. Higher frequency, let's say in a sense, right? You're gonna have more love, more compassion, and you're gonna see life in a different way, and that's gonna strengthen your connections with everyone around. And that's gonna make your life much more beautiful because you're gonna see that the struggle in the struggles, there's so much beauty and wisdom.

Anne Vryonides:

Is there a book that you would recommend for someone who is going through the grief and is looking for healing?

Selima Maxine Crum:

I like, Wayne Dyer's books. He has a great collection of books and many of them are so powerful. One of them that I really liked was, I can see clearly now. It's a deeply personal reflection on his life and spiritual journey. In it he looks back at pivotal moments and experiences that shaped his path and shares the insight he gained along the way. The book is not only about his life story but also about how we can all transform our perspectives, overcome challenges, and embrace the spiritual lessons that help us live a more fulfilled life. Because whatever happens to you is not happening against you. It's happening really for you, for your inner growth. So it's about doing the work, doing the inner growth, doing the spiritual work, digging within. Because at the end, that's what the treasure is.

Anne Vryonides:

Beautiful, Selima. You're such a strong, courageous woman and I really appreciate you taking the time to share your inspiring story. So thank you so much. I really appreciate it. Where can people connect with you, follow your work, or learn more about you?

Selima Maxine Crum:

thank you so much for having this podcast. I think it's gonna be so useful for so many people. And thank you for inviting me. People can follow me on, Instagram. My handle is Sima, dash Maxine. I do also have my website, selima maxine.com. And yeah, IG provides some, healing and, reiki and. Some spiritual advice as well as some readings to people, hopefully wherever they are in their journey. So I'm having support and to bring some love and light.

Anne Vryonides:

Excellent. Thank you. Thank you so much. We'll include the links and the notes below I thank you once again for sharing your story with us. It has been absolute pleasure. And if you found this episode helpful, please share it with someone who might be facing the same situation. And. Needs to hear this message of hope and inspiration. Don't forget to subscribe and I'll see you next time on Overcoming Anything.